Angeles City bars are a place of wild fantasies. Filipino bar girls work in these bars which are catered specifically for foreigners. So much so that it is against the rules for a Filipino to walk into the establishments alone. But interestingly enough to note, if you’ve been in the Philippines (specifically, Angeles City) for awhile, is that a majority of the Filipinobar girls are not actually fromAngeles City.
So where do the Angeles City bars find their girls? Where do they come from? A majority are brought in by other friends already working in the bars. Word gets sent back to the province via text messages that there are plenty of opportunities to make a quick buck or possibly even find a foreign husband (the real gold mine). So, the girls back in the province are a little comfortable knowing one of their friends is already doing the job, and they head to Angeles City and decide to try it for themselves.
Other girls are essentially “scouted” from mamasans and papasans within the provinces. Mamasans and papasans are basically the managers of Filipinobar girls. In essence, what we would call the “pimp” in America. They have contacts back in their province, and can gather together a group of girls at once to send to Angeles City. The cost of the transportation is shouldered by the mamasan or papasan, and is then paid back by the Filipinobar girls via working in the bar.
Hide and Seek? Ah yes what a fun game. I remember it like it was yesterday. Covering my eyes while counting backwards from ten. Then going on the hunt throughout the house for my sister or brother. Good times, good times.
So why is it that meeting a Filipina from a dating website seems to remind me so much of playing hide and seek? Well, maybe because that’s exactly what they do when they meet you. Another cultural difference? Maybe.
It’s happened countless of times. I’m online chatting with a Filipino girl for a couple days (or hours) and we decide to meet up somewhere. Sometimes it’s at a mall like SM or Robinson’s, or sometimes it’s just a small place like the Mini Stop in Angeles City.
For the foreigners that marry these women, do they feel false chemistry which is why they end up getting separated shortly after?
I was asked this question by one of the members, so I thought I’d touch on it.
I feel there’s a number of reasons why, after the marriage, that there seems to be many separations between a foreigner and filipino lady. A lot of things come into play here as well. First off, did the foreigner even think he had chemistry when marrying her? I’ve got to say, meeting a Filipina girl online, chatting for a few months, and then going to meet her is great. But, marrying after 1 or even 2 trips?
This shitload of trouble I’m speaking of is clear and day for me to see here in America. I see tons of young Filipino women married to men 20 or 30 years their elder. The girls did it. They made it. They got what they wanted. A better life. Money for their family back home in the Philippines. No more struggling 12 hours a day, 7 days a week in that 100 peso a day sales job. Congratulations girl, you did it, you won. But what now? You’re 25 and the guy is 55. Where will you be in 20 years? A young, still great looking Filipino women at 45, and a possible widow. And what do you have until those years pass? Well, from what I’ve seen, lots of cheating, and the girl finally going for what her heart desires – true love. She chose her husband for the money and support, but now she wants what comes 2nd on her list – and that is a real connection. She doesn’t find it with her husband, so then she starts getting in trouble, seeking it out in other places. This is a common situation that I see time and again here in America, and I’m sure is no different in other countries.
But alas, her goal was not true love from the start. Her goal was a better life for her, her children, her family, etc. And she accomplished that. So if you want a beautiful, young, sexy, Filipino woman, by all means, it’s not too hard to find in the vast islands of the Philippines. But if you want all that, PLUS true love…well, that my friend, is harder than hitting a 100mph fast ball.
Ok, so little miss cute Filipina had her heart broken by her last Filipino boyfriend. But so did every other girl in the world. They are just using these answers to hide the real reason, which is too embarrassing for them to admit. Remember, in the Filipino culture, “saving face” is of the utmost importance. Let me break it down into simple terms for you.
“A better life.”
Coming from extreme poverty is no easy task, and I don’t come from there. I see it every day in the Phiippines and I can only imagine how difficult it must be. People in any country and any place will do just about anything to better themselves, especially if they are on the low end of the totem pole.
So these beautiful Pinay girls – they don’t actually like foreigners more for who they are as a person. No, it’s not that. It’s the fact that dating a foreigner gives them more hope for their future. A hope that with a foreigner husband, their family won’t have to worry about food. A hope that with a foreigner husband, they can finally move out of the slums and into a nice home.
You’ve met them before, but you might not know that you have. Maybe you’ve heard them say it before. She tells you something along the lines of since her last Filipino boyfriend, she will never date another Filipino.
When you’re looking for a Filipinogirl to keep, you might want to keep this in mind. I’ve gotten into the minds of at least a few hundred girls from the Philippines since 2007. I’ve probed, asked questions, and tried to learn what they want. I’ve also done this in America. I’ve got a strong grasp on relationships and people’s emotions. Lying, jealousy, love, being genuine – these are things I can detect rather easily.
If the goal is to find a Filipina wife and settle down, read on. But, this only applies to you if you want REAL love, and not just a wife that you hardly know and basically import into your country. Some guys want just that. They meet a girl, can hardly pronounce her last name, and then marry her. And that’s fine by me and many others, because that’s just what some people want, and everyone is different. Some guys just want a cute and loving Filipina to take care of them.
This has been an issue and question of mine for the longest time. Why are these Filipina girls so damn jealous? I just don’t get it, and I don’t think I ever will. I’ve tried to reason and make sense out of it, but I just can’t. At first I thought it was because this particular Philippine girl I’m talking to had a bad past. You know, a boyfriend that cheated on her and kept lying.
But then I ran into girls that never even had a boyfriend before. Never even had a date. And they were still doing the same exact immature, jealous type things. Coming from America, this was truly a culture shock. And that’s really the only answer I have. It’s just…part of their culture. At first I became infuriated, agitated, pissed off, annoyed. But once I realized it’s almost like a chain reaction for them to say certain things, it got easier to deal with. I just picture myself getting in my car and putting on my seatbelt, and I tell myself that doing this action is just like a Filipinogirl‘s response to something I say.
I am an average guy who grew up in a large city here in the states. Since my retirement, I’ve been wanting to move to the Philippines. My wife who is a Filipina tells me that it is too dangerous that I would be kid-napped.
I tell her that I could take care of myself with anything that comes my way, in other words I am not a push over. Should I say; I worked as a longshoremen, teamster, as well as 23 years inside three different prison. No not as an inmate, as a prison guard and retired sergeant. So to put it mildly, I watch my back.
Now with all that said, do I have much to worry about? My wife and I have a two story home in Sta. Margarita, Samar. When I was there in Samar and Manila, I felt comfortable among the Filipino people. As a matter of fact I found them to be very inviting and nice in general. So what’s the big deal? Is my wife just trying to scare me? I don’t scare easy.
So what do you say? Would like any advise from any American who permanently lives in the Philippines.
Heading out to Jollibee in Angeles City, Pampanga. I try the new Sweet and Sour meatballs at Jollibee. I love those little fuckers. The motorbike guy puts cardboard and rocks on my bike which pisses me off. But that’s how he makes a living I guess.
Off to DAU Puregold which is my favorite grocery store in the Philippines. I buy some boneless bangus which is oh so yummy kaya.
There’s a Filipino man trying to sell an electric fan and washing machine at 9 in the morning. Jesus. At SM Clark and checking out the American Sbarro Pizza Company.
I’m back at the Angeles City apartment and I run into a huge war with a Filipino Spider. I end up killing it with a kill-shot in one attempt using Robi’s sneaker.
Back at SM Clark and I buy salmon and then an authentic (hmmm?) Nathan’s hot dog from America.
Looks like it’s 10 days and counting until I depart for my next destination: Dumaguete.