Hide and Seek? Ah yes what a fun game. I remember it like it was yesterday. Covering my eyes while counting backwards from ten. Then going on the hunt throughout the house for my sister or brother. Good times, good times.
So why is it that meeting a Filipina from a dating website seems to remind me so much of playing hide and seek? Well, maybe because that’s exactly what they do when they meet you. Another cultural difference? Maybe.
It’s happened countless of times. I’m online chatting with a Filipino girl for a couple days (or hours) and we decide to meet up somewhere. Sometimes it’s at a mall like SM or Robinson’s, or sometimes it’s just a small place like the Mini Stop in Angeles City.
Now, this doesn’t happen all the time, not by a long shot. But it’s happened enough times for me to write an article about it. Off the top of my head, I can count at least five or six Filipina girls that I’ve met who have seemed to play this game. They incorporate texting into the game as well. It’s quite slick yet invariably frustrating for me.
Let’s throw an example out there. I get to the meeting spot in the Philippines – let’s say it’s Watson’s Drug Store inside Ayala mall. This store is not so big, and there might be only 3-4 customers at a time browsing.
Her first text says she’s there outside the store and then, “So what are you wearing?”
Really? What am I wearing? How about my face which looks like a foreigner and not a Filipino? I’m obviously the only foreigner inside the store at the moment, but she chooses to play hide and seek from afar (a vantage point, perhaps) and start asking nonsense questions, as if somehow knowing I’m a foreigner is not enough. She’s seen my picture and knows exactly what I look like (and I’m the only foreigner for a mile) yet somehow knowing the color of my shirt is the real info she needs.
They also take incredibly long to reply to your text message during the hide and seek game. If I reply “a white shirt and jeans,” it will be at least another 2-3 minutes before she will reply with another fantastic text such as, “Are you sure?”
Really? You’re asking me if I’m sure about the clothes I’m wearing? If you guys think I’m exaggerating, well, I’m not. Just ask any other foreigner who has been in the Philippines long enough and has had the pleasure of meeting these beautiful Filipinas. I’m sure they’ve all gone through the hide and seek at least once in their endeavors.
I have certain theories. I think what they are doing is just staring at me for a good 20 minutes while seeing how I react to ridiculous questions that have no logic to them. Maybe they are testing my patience. Maybe they want to see if I will get angry and lash back. Watching me with a pair of binoculars from afar…who knows? I sure don’t. Or it could just be an extreme case of Filipino shyness, and they are just avoiding the actual face to face confrontation for as long as possible. Which would also make sense, since half the time when you meet them, the Filipino girl can’t even look you in the eyes she’s so shy.
If you have fond memories of playing hide and seek in your childhood, then you will fully enjoy dating women in the Philippines. If you have no patience for these little “games,” well, you better start learning some breathing and relaxation techniques before your trip.